The Secret to Connecting With People Instantly

For a long time I didn’t feel like I had a lot of people to relate to.  Being shy, I didn’t find myself in a lot of conversations with people I didn’t know, and when I did, I was uncomfortable...

Have you ever been similarly confused that you see two people who, from all outward appearances, are similar. But one is successful and the other is failure? I bet you've been experienced itat least once.
So If it doesn't depend on looks, intelligence, education,  money or even unbringing. What is it?
The answer is the way you connect with people, the way you persuade them. And it will help you success in any relationship.

When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.~ Ernest Hemingway

Here is some secrets you should know to make a great impression with others:
1. Develop excellent eye contact:
Yet, for many, the most difficult aspect of meeting people is looking into their eyes long enough to really connect with them. This is a challenge.
Because you can even use your eyes to make people crave your approval. In certain circumstances, the facial expression can be quite potent and help you achieve your goals easily.

2. Make Your Friends Look Good 
When you are introducing friends, be sure to put them in a great light by giving more than just their name.
Tell something wonderful about them. Even if you both know the group and introductions aren’t involved, bring up your friends’ favorite subjects so your pals can sound offknowledgeably.

3. Do a “Dress Rehearsal” Before Your Important Occasion
Never wear anything new to an important event, interview, meeting, or on a big date. Unless you enjoy snickers and scorn, give your new outfit a dry run when you’re on girl’s night out or having a beer with
the boys.
If I had worn my new suit someplace just once before the speech, I would have discovered silk clings to pantyhose and pitilessly reveals perspiration.
Give your jeans and old sweater a vacation. Don your slick new clothes and run around the house in them. Watch TV in them. Organize your CDs in them. Take a nap in them—especially if they’re cotton, so you see how they pass the wrinkle test. After they are cleaned, they will look just as good. And you will look evenbetter, because you won’t have that stiff. “I’m wearing new clothes” look.

4. Come on Slow and Let Your Personality Grow 
Don’t feel compelled to jump into a discussion right away. When you are quiet at fi rst, you create a sense of mystery. Simply listen to and make good eye contact with the others while they are talking. When you do decide to speak up, your awaited comments carry more weight. Your earlier calm, confident silence becomes, retroactively, impressive